SIBLINGS: ME AND THE BOSS!

 

Anne Schwartz Books, 2022

The subtitle for this very special picture book is: A STORY ABOUT MENDING AND LOVE. I have three other siblings and, at this stage of life, my sense of those relationships is one of gratitude, not worry or concern. Even so, thoughts of childhood flood with memories that we got along and loved each other, but there were plenty of days which might have deserved some mending. But there I go, reading that subtitle with my adult mind, assuming the meaning related to resolving a disagreement or some relationship trouble. Kids though, are literal critters, and they will understand immediately the very big and deep story behind the looks on the faces of these characters, on the cover and on the interior spreads.

ME AND THE BOSS: A Story About Mending and Love is written by Michelle Edwards and illustrated by April Harrison. The first seemingly simple lines target the heart of this story with the following words:

"I know big sisters. Zora, the Boss, is mine. 

I go wherever she goes and we are always home before dark. 

Those are the rules."

This is a likely-familiar scenario within many families, while each reader's take on it will be deeply refracted by their own relationships within a family cluster. Even the singleton child who always longed for siblings might ache for such an imagined older or younger "appendage", someone who might halve the worries and cautions of daily life.

Now read only that second sentence: "Zora, the Boss, is mine." 

Without the surrounding words, six-year-old Lee's first person voice states the foundation of his world, even within their loving, stable circle of caring and present parents. From waking to dusk, Lee belongs to Zora and is safe with her. His careful observations and gentle smile are not erased by her stern demeanor. She takes him into the world, insists he be allowed to participate, even with a needle and thread that could prick his fingers. She fibs about his age to assure he can take part. And he knows she does.

He does not shed tears. He does not give up. He watches, learns, and admires the Boss. He trusts her to be "mine". She will get them home before dark, heads down, and he will feel safer slipping his hand into hers, which she grips tightly.

This launches us into Lee's world and softens our view of his stern-faced sister. He is not a quitter. Lee is as stingy with words as his sister is. If Zora believes in him he can believe in himself. His overnight wakefulness provides time to practice, to calm his too-quick fingers on the needle, and accomplish his plans. He expands his sense of independence, achieves a goal for himself, then extends his newfound skill to offer a silent surprise to his sister. 

Much effort is currently being made in the publishing world to elevate and promulgate author and illustrator voices that share stories and images from previously underrepresented cultures and identities. Within that, the shift is on to share "Black Joy", as I've written about HERE, HERE, and HERE. It will take many such titles to provide celebrations of contemporary relationships, interests, and experiences that begin to balance the prior focus on stories of suffering and slavery and pain. Those historic stories are essential, but mirrors of daily life and lively engagements, like this one, need to be readily available and welcomed into the canon of children's literature. In this case the sibling roles within family, neighborhood, and community are not only contemporary but reminiscent of generations of families of every color. This, then, is a welcome version of the century of stories sharing such experiences in which the people on the page are white. conventional (exclusionary) policies claimed that "others" who read/view it will "see" themselves in it. Here, the same can be said for those who are not Black. These characters, this story, could belong to anyone. As illustrated by the powerful images of April Harrison, the family members are not mere darker-skinned generic people. They embody and project an undeniably rooted Black family and relationships, people I want to know. The dignity, strength, and synergy within this family are undeniable and enviable. They don't need for me to know them,  but they deserve to be known.

Examine those faces closely. Pay attention to every word, within the full story flow and also as single statements. Project their lives forward. Zora is not "forever" Boss, only to remain so as they age. Her demands of Lee and her defense of him are building within him a brother who will, one day in the future, separate himself from her Boss role and become the brother she loves and needs as there are now, side by side, equal sibling adults.